pursuing will push her away. I remember when I did almost the exact same thing. Then I realized that wasn't working. Remember going down cheeseless holes? You're going down one! Find another one or you will push her away even more.
Unless you want to push her away?
It doesn't seem like you do. Keep those thoughts (for now) to yourself and tell US! We won't run away from you. We'll support you and listen. She obviously doesn't want to right now.
Hate to be so tough on you but you have to stop. I literally yelled at my computer screen when I was reading your post to stop!
I believe you when YOU say why you got married but remember, she's an alien right now. She doesn't feel that way (right now). By you pushing her, you are justifying her thoughts of leaving.
By detaching, you give her doubt. Dude, I feel that it was working when she was "checking up on you". Let her be curious! That's EXACTLY what happened with my W. I let her be curious and she came to me. I didn't push or pursue and things are working better. Still a work in progress but it's progress.
We have your back!!
m 40 w 38 married 15 together 18 d11, d8 bomb 12/19/10 2nd bomb 3/30/11 COMPLETELY DONE
