it is very difficult but I think if it wasn't it wouldn't be worth it. I think that by you asking her, basically, to come "home" she is feeling pressured. I would lay off and just be her support.
Dude, it is TOUGH no doubt but if you truly want it to work, you can do it. It will take time and an ENORMOUS amount of patience and fortitude.
I guess you really have to sit down with yourself and ask yourself is this the best thing? I do it almost DAILY, man. It is hard for sure but if you do want it to work and if you DO the work, I think it will pay off in the long run.
Like I said, if anything, it makes you a better man.
I can see how "home" creates this pressure for her. There are times in the past where we pieced something back together quickly, because it was easier to do. We should have spent more time to really analyze the situation and act accordingly. Patience.
It is just that drifting apart where you want nothing more than to pull back in. It is tough.
I feel right now that I am just trying way to hard. I have been giving her the love I am capable of and doing all of the little things that I would normally do. My sister told me I have to stop doing the little things. She does not deserve them at this point, because she does not love you in the way you are expressing by doing them.
I just need to find a happy medium where I am not pressuring her or going overboard but still be friendly and there for support.
Me - 33 W - 33 S - 9 months M - 3 years T - 5.5 years Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY PA discovered - 1/18/11 PA began - 3/22/10 Separated
