I haven't posted much on here about me. I can't really figure things out on my own, I'm working on it. I think if I knew what to do and what was going on I would be able to chat,.....
You have been "charting new territory" in MLC-land so it's understandable that you would need time to find that "still small voice" within to guide you forward. I don't know if anyone around here, present or past (archives), has lived a situation similar to yours. If there is someone like that, their words might give you inspiration. I know how hard I've fought for my H/XH after a relatively brief life together, I can understand how you would invest time in reconnecting with your H whom you've loved for 30+ years.
Originally Posted By: Sanderika
I have had no contact with my lawyer, she has sent me three letters inquiring about my intent and I can't seem to make up my mind what I want. I want her to leave me alone to think. I am still trying to fire her. She does not want to stop representing me. She feels really bad how she treated me.
Your L is probably afraid that you are going to sue her. After the bomb I found out that the L who represented me in the prenup came from the same firm that had represented H/XH previously. My D attorney told me that I had grounds for a legal action (conflict of interest) if I chose to pursue it. Wasn't interested, but I'm pretty sure Ls think about these things a lot.
Originally Posted By: Sanderika
H and I have had three discussions about dismissing our case. I am afraid to. I know all too well what happened the last time. I don't want a divorce but at the same time I don't trust that things will be any different.
Do you think it makes any difference that H filed in September, before he professed his continuing love for you? Do you think H has had any type of mental shift since he opened up to you in that way? If so, would that make a difference? I can't tell from your post whether your H wants to drop dismiss the D or not.....but even if he says that he does, I can certainly see how that would sound like more of the same. I know that you have thought about all of these things before, but I am just going to put a couple of them "out there". If H wants to dismiss the D action, could you set boundaries by saying that you would consider it if he takes certain actions such as IC, eliminating OW from his life (he must be tired of her by now)?
Has the court given you any deadlines for anything at this point? Just wondering if you're working against any type of deadline (i.e. obtaining new counsel, filing new paperwork, etc). Has the same judge presided over much of this?
Sanderika, I don't want to pester you with questions. I just thought that throwing a few things out there might trigger some insights for you.
Keep warm! Punxsutawney Phil says we're going to have an early spring this year! I didn't realize that ground hogs had a sense of humor.
I didn't realize that ground hogs had a sense of humor. 
