My story

[sbrass]

Just bought the Sex starved marriage book. At least we're reading it together - after an angry explosion. 'Why had I bought this book without consulting here first?' Why? Because we have a sex-starved marriage, that's why. Thirty years together, good friends, good communication, but less and less sex, and now none, for months. Zero desire on her side. And I don't want sex without desire. So at least there's something going on, we're reading, talking. But still no real change on what matters to me.
It's hard to feel desired when there's no desire, to feel loved when there's none of the love that you want and need. I'm torn between hope and despair. Why should things change now? We've been to a therapist, and that didn't help at all, possibly made things worse...