Ok so as you know I was feeling kind of down today and really wanted to talk to W just to hear her voice but I really had no reason to call her, so what is a 2step to do? Alas, my daughter pulls through.
So D approaches me tonight after I get back from a family Bday party and says "daddy. I would like to talk to you about something very important. All my friends in school have a FB and so do my cousins. Now I know you and W don't like for me to have one because you are scared of who might contact me but I would like for you to make it private, give me a password, and I will only go on when you are home and you can log me in and out and check all my friends and post" After such a logical approach what is a father to do? I told her "D. I appreciate you being logical in your request. Can I sleep on it tonight and give you an answer in the morning?" "OK"
2step, WTH does this have to do with your W? Stick with me....
A few weeks back I was talking to my DB coach and one of my W's problems was the fact she felt excluded from decisions involving D and she also felt that I did not value her opinion or cared; so she suggested on occasion I should contact W and ask her opinion on matters. When W gave it I should say "I really appreciate your feedback, thank you"
So I sent W the following text " W I have something I would like your opinion on, if you have time tonight and you can call I would appreciate it. It will be short"
So I received a text from her that she would call in a short while. She did, we spoke briefly
W "what are you up to"
M "just watching a movie with D"
W "oh your busy would you like me to call you back?"
M "actually yeah if you don't mind."
W "Oh Ok or you can call me later"
M "It will be late this movie is long you might be asleep. I can just ask you now really quick or just call you tomorrow"
W "I will be up late, you can call if you like I am not sleeping anyways or now if you like"
M "I'll call later wait D wants to talk to you"
At this point D and W talked for a few minutes. D has an ear infection and was telling her about it. W got on the phone gave me some detail instructions on what to do. I listened and told her thank you I would call her later, kept it short on purpose.
I finished the movie with D put her to sleep and send W the following text
M "your still up?"
W "yep"
I called asked her opinion on FB, she thought about it for a bit explained why she was against it and explained why I should go ahead and let her. I thank her and told her goodnight, then she began to talk and talk and talk.
We started talking about religion then we started talking about politics then about the debt of Jersey then about work anyways you get the point.
We talked for 2hrs about everything except the R/M or getting back together. Twice I started to cut the convo short and twice she continued to talk, at one point she said "You don't have to go unless you are tired, I am enjoying talking to you"
If I got nothing else from this convo that was worth the post. We also talked about some fun things we had done together NFL game, NBA game, and an NHL game we went to. We even talked about Fantasy Football.
But all good things must come to an end so around 2AM I said
M "well W its been nice talking to you but its late and you have to work tomorrow so i will let you get some rest"
W "she said ok goodnight"
After I got the phone I sent her the song from the movie Tangled "I've got a dream" because I had mentioned it in the convo how she would enjoy the movie and that was my fav song.
That's it no major milestones here just a nice pleasant talk, but it kind of reminded me about something she mentioned in the DB session when the coach asked what about H did you like, her response "we could talk about anything and everything and he listened to me."
