I'm going to make a few assumptions here, correct me if I am wrong.
You have always done the lion's share of the work, it's not that you are doing more now, it's just that you are tired of the role you took on without any signs of appreciation.
Your wife hasn't changed, she also has always been this way, but now it is upsetting you.
The lack of sex is a huge part of it?
Your getting apathetic.
Why bother?
Why indeed?
You busted your divorce, but the piecing never got off the ground. Thats the part where you both rebuild and you both have boundaries and you both aren't afraid to let the other know what you want and expect from each other.
After so much time Forrest you're talking about a lot of hard work, but if you're at the point where you're not sure it matters, then what do you have to lose?
You want direct advice?
No.
It's a suckers bet.
You get the wrong advice and things go wrong and it is not on you. Its on the person who gave it to you, no burden on you.
You say you're not willing to do the work, not sure if its apathy here or being afraid of it.
Before you dismiss that idea out of hand, consider this:
Why are you not attempting to engage with your daughter?
Direct advice on that one, START interacting with her, get a book,talk to friends who have daughters, but figure something out.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
