W in long PA with another woman. I'm devastated.

[Bolt]

sparks, you nailed it exactly with the snooping - its definitely not detaching. If anything, it makes matter worse for you. And even worse, if she finds out, makes it even worser (not a word, I know but it works here)

Part of the healing on your end is trusting the other person. At the very least, you'll be a more secure man in the future. If not for your W for someone else. That helps you in the end, right?

We're here for you.