wife planning long term separation

[FellOnBlackDays]

Shaves,
I want to address your earlier post. Yes, it does seem to be normal behavior for WAS's to dump old friends. My W has done the same thing. I asked my C about this and he also said that it is normal. Apparently, they will abandon certain people out of shame and guilt. They don't want to be around people that don't approve of what they are doing. My W has pretty much cut off all contact with any of the couples we hung out with when we were together. They will also dump anyone that doesn't approve of their actions. My W has a new band of friends that I don't really know and they support her actions. So, she hangs around them constantly and has pretty much dumped anyone that might go against her "master plan." She has turned her back on my family at times and has really made an enemy out of my sister who was once her best friend.

It is pretty sad, really. Some of these folks have called me to find out what is going on. They are hurt that she has done this. When they ask me why, I tell them to call her. After a couple of drinks one day, my FIL broke down and confessed to me that she doesn't even talk to him that much any more. Her own family is starting to worry. WAS's are some screwed up individuals, no doubt. They think they have it all figured out. But what they don't realize is that many of those around them aren't celebrating their actions, they are pitying them for their lack of judgment and civility. That is irony so thick that you can cut it with a knife. They really do live in their own little dream world complete with tiny little action figures they can push around for their amusement.

Hang in there, you are doing fine.

BITS never walk alone!

FOBD