Taking a break from homework for a few....I was checking out my facebook page, and I saw something interesting.
I mentioned how ex-s W (OW) was having one of her bipolar weekends. Well, according to S14, the mood continued last Wednesday when he went to ex's house. S14 told me that he hopes they go to SIL's this weekend, so he can stay away from OW.
I also mentioned how I added SIL, niece, and nephew to my facebook friends. So we've had a couple brief message exchanges, not much. Baby steps. S14 is asking me to add ex's dad and brother too. I told him that I need time to get used to the others first. I mean I see pictures of everything going on in the family, including ex and OW. I am a strong woman, but I'm not completely nuts (not yet anyway)!
So anyway, on facebook last night, I noticed that ex-SIL updated her status to say "Giving advice to my brother." It made me wonder which brother. The other brother lives out-of-state, and is on-line often. So it could be either one.
Then today, out of the blue, I received a phone call at work. (Remember ex-H works at same company as me.) I didn't recognize the number at first (ex-H's cell number that I just received a few months ago). I answered in my usual professional manner, and he says "Hey!"
Not knowing who it was, but assuming I'd figure it out, I just replied, "Hey!"
Then he asked "How are you doing?" He was using one of those nice, I know you, old friend, almost flirty voice that guys use, you know what I mean?
I replied (still not knowing who it was), "I'm good, and you?" He replied "Good." So then I asked "Who is this?"
He laughed and said "It's *****." I laughed and said "Oh! I didn't recognize your voice." Then I covered it up by saying I was distracted because someone was just walking away from my desk when the phone rang. Which is sorta true, but not completely.
He needed some help with stopping his direct deposit. He wanted to know how soon it would become effective, so he could get a live check. He seemed to be concerned that he wanted it to stop ASAP, based on the way he asked it.
That is an easy question that he could have asked anyone on my staff. But that's what he does sometimes. Sometimes he will email or call. But not often.
The funny thing about today's conversation....If I didn't know any better, I'd say he was relaxed and actually enjoying talking to me.
Ummmmm.....okay. What gives?
I just returned the same friendly manner and helped him out. I told him to call me later this week if he wanted me to check on it for him.
I so much wanted to ask "Why are you stopping your direct deposit?" And I honestly feel like he was expecting me to ask. I didn't though, but the recent events with OW had crossed my mind.
For those who have been around....Do you remember way back when, before he married OW. Sometimes he would call me at work just to chat? The voice today...it was that voice.
Okay, that was so weird.
Maybe it's just another sign that he is more comfortable talking to me, and we don't have to be so on edge. I've really been making an effort to be friendly to him, and I can see our interactions have changed.
But today was definitely different.
Hmmmm......
Then tonight when I signed on facebook, the status update from x-SIL was "I am concerned!"
More hmmmm.... OW bipolar mood swing. SIL offering advice to her brother. Ex wants a live check and no direct deposit. SIL is concerned?
Coincidence? Maybe......
It's hard not to want to read into that, I mean c'mon now! Don't we all want our ex's R's with the OW to fail eventually? Am I bad for saying that?
I don't want him to be unhappy, and I don't wish him ill, but sometimes I do think about it. (Smacking myself on hand now for being mean.)
See? I AM a cyber stalker! LOL. I didn't add them as friends to be a snoop. I just can't help but wonder though.
Okay, back to my homework.
Me 47 Ex H 46 Bomb 9/02 D final 3/04 Ex H now married to OW
------------ This is surviving. There is no such thing as a normal life, there's just life. So get on with it and enjoy it!
Hi Ellie. Good to see you. I hope you're doing okay.
Originally Posted By: kml
.......I'd look forward to any situation that forced the WAS to realize that they made a mistake.
I agree. On one hand, I'd like to hear him say he screwed up. But if he did say it, I think I'd be ticked off. So, you put us through all of this and you STILL aren't happy? Wow! Shocker!
Originally Posted By: kml
Ummm.....what might he be trying to schmooze you out of??????
Yeah, I thought about that too. He has to know by now though that I am not going to let him walk on me. This is the 3rd time I've stood up for something, and he ends up losing every time.
The last time was about a reduction in CS and he wanted to claim S14 on his taxes. The judge allowed a minor reduction in CS, due to child care going away. But no deal to the rest.
I think he was shocked when I got a L. Ex had to go get himself a L as a result. I've had the L on retainer ever since.
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Me 47 Ex H 46 Bomb 9/02 D final 3/04 Ex H now married to OW
------------ This is surviving. There is no such thing as a normal life, there's just life. So get on with it and enjoy it!
Well, I got the courage, and I sent the email to S22's bio dad. It has been a long time coming. I don't know what will happen next, or if he'll reply, but it will be what it will be. I know it was the right thing.
Now we wait.....
Me 47 Ex H 46 Bomb 9/02 D final 3/04 Ex H now married to OW
------------ This is surviving. There is no such thing as a normal life, there's just life. So get on with it and enjoy it!
Okay, I just submitted this week's homework on-line, so I have time for a quick post before heading to bed.
No reply from S22's bio dad yet. It looks like he hasn't read my email yet. I am nervous about his reply (or lack of).
Ex-H called me at last minute today and asked if I would keep S14 tonight. He apologized for the last minute notice. I didn't ask any questions, because I sorta knew that was coming a couple days ago. Not that he told me - just knew based on what I've been seeing and feeling. That is normally what happens when the W is in one of her moods. Funny thing though, he was calling from his house in the middle of the workday.
Again, there is a story there......But unless it impacts S14, it's none of my business.
Ex SIL made another post on the website, something about waiting for her B to call. It was the middle of the day, so strange. Ex-H possibly?
Hmmm......this coming up weekend is his weekend with S14. I wonder if he'll keep him all weekend.
Me 47 Ex H 46 Bomb 9/02 D final 3/04 Ex H now married to OW
------------ This is surviving. There is no such thing as a normal life, there's just life. So get on with it and enjoy it!
I forgot to mention that Robert got hurt at work on Monday. Long story, but he was at a work-site (not owned by his company), and a contractor for the owner was digging. The ground collapsed under Robert and he fell about 15 feet into the hole.
He has a concussion, sprained ankle, bumps, cuts, and bruises, but he's okay, considering. He is on crutches right now and the headaches and pains are getting better. The ankle is a bit better too. He is allowed to go back to work tomorrow on light duty, but I don't know how well he will do with that. He's just now started to feel somewhat normal again.
What a blessing that he wasn't hurt more!
Me 47 Ex H 46 Bomb 9/02 D final 3/04 Ex H now married to OW
------------ This is surviving. There is no such thing as a normal life, there's just life. So get on with it and enjoy it!
Wow, this thread is still open huh? I had a dream last night about some old DB buddies and just found my fingers pulling up the website tonight (all on their own). Funny how that happened. So I wonder who is still around from the Class of 2002??
Me 47 Ex H 46 Bomb 9/02 D final 3/04 Ex H now married to OW
------------ This is surviving. There is no such thing as a normal life, there's just life. So get on with it and enjoy it!
