What should I do?

[Forrest Gump]

"Turn about is fair play I suppose."

But.. my post came across as sarcastic.. or hurtful. Even J3B posted on it. He knew that I was not trying to scare you off. Why did you feel the need to pull back? Why did your words come out golden.. and mine were just "crap"? I used your words. I just inserted "get some" in them.

"She's trying to get your attention and not in the best way. I'm having difficulty changing the way I approach things with males too.
We do that when we deal with our kids. We know you're not our children, but switching gears is a little difficult."

I understand the WAW syndrome. To a T. She has said.. "I don't want to be your mother". So why is this all I hear about? Apply my drinking.. and my porn abuse to your thought. Heck for that matter just apply that I am a POS husband. How can I help you switch gears?

"4 years? Oh wow...no wonder you're ready to call it a day. I didn't know it was that long! In that case I think she needs to just do it, even if she's not feeling it...she then will feel like doing more of it eventually."

Thanks for understanding. But.. lets take my "needs" out. I am a big boy. I can handle it. I have porn. Give me your best shot on how I can encourage her. Action words will work best here.

"Have you asked her how she believes your interactions with your kids should look, given that you "play" with children differently than she would? Have you asked he what her expectations are?"

Yes. I asked her what a perfect day would be. Her response was the days at the beach. We took a vacation this past year with her family. I was up and cooking for everyone. Breakfast, Dinner. It was good times. But the last night there.. I suggested "get some". I was told we could do that when we got home. I am still at home. I am still lacking. I can't be "at the beach" every day. I don't expect her to either.

"The time here would be the dedicated 20 minutes or longer you would spend focused and interacting with your kids and only your kids. Not multitasking, not texting while saying "uhmm" as you look at your Blackberry screen and dash off a text. Not being mesmerized by a screen of some sort."

Our stitches are different. Work.. stays at Work. I am sorry that you had to put up with that. I can see how that would leave you lacking.