Beginner's Mind

[zengypsy]

BM, I have the same hopes as you to one day remarry my STBXH. My D will be final soon and it [censored].

I truly think as I talk to more people come on these board and read my a$$ off, that some people really need the D to truly have the clarity to see what they have lost. For some reason, this chapter in their lives is just too painful to revisit and the D gives them the closure. It's a werid mindset I know but at the same time I sort-of get it.

I have also read somewhere that the "turn around" time for a the X to have regret about the decision to D is about 6-9 mos.

I believe anything is possible especially if you continue to work on yourself. And, just because you got the D, you can still DB. You started off as friends in the beginning right? Then you can start from there again. Maybe not right away but over time, she just needs time to cath up.

Keep the faith and don't give up if that's what your heart is truly speaking to you.

Prayers to you and enjoy your weekend