Having a hard time... II

[MrBond]

I'm going to go against the grain here and say that IMO, you've been approaching this all wrong.

You've done the going dark thing and it hasn't produced any positive results. In fact you haven't "gone dark". You're just afraid to talk to her. Going dark is a conscience thing and you're just waiting in the hope that she'll notice you. Wrong way to approach it.

You haven't really talked to her in a couple of months and personally to her it might have shown that you've "given up". I'm not saying you need to fall to pieces after her, you just need to START SOMETHING.

What's the sense of going dark if she doesn't see any of the changes you're making. From her perspective, it almost seems like you want the D.

You keep having an attitude like, oh well the D is going to happen so it doesn't matter what I do. BS. There are alot you can do. You're just too afraid to do it. If you don't show that you value your M, why should your W?

I still say you should just call her to say 'hello'. Have you ever thought that the reason why she was taking awhile to get things sorted out was because she was waiting for you to make a move? I could be wrong, but you'll never know unless you try communicating with her.