Wasn't getting much action either in the 180 or the WAW section, but even though I've been actively DBing for the past few months, I think posting as a newcomer here in this section is probably the best place for me to start over.
My attempts to save my marriage have now officially failed, so it's time for me to figure out how to pick up the pieces and move on with...strange and desperate as it may sound... with hope that one day we will remarry.
I think the odds are pretty slim, but it's not gonna stop me from trying, while becoming an even better person and maintaining my dignity and self-respect in the process.
Here's the quick stats:
Me: 47 She: 41 Together 4 years Married 6 months
About to be divorced any day now. She's just waiting for me to sign the papers.
I think the biggest question on my mind is, knowing that she feels the only chance we will ever have is for me to sign the papers and let her go, and knowing that I feel once those papers are signed she is gone for good...
What am I to do.
Shall la la la la I live for today?
Yeah, that's my first response. Stop thinking about the past or worrying about the future. Stop trying to control the outcome of everything and Just. Let. Go!
I know that's what she wants, and I know it's what she feels she needs.
Not much details for you to go on here, but whaddaya think?
She says she has spent too much time trying to please other people. Not just me. She says she is unhappy in our marriage and needs to do this for her. To stand up for herself even if it hurts me.
It's tough because that totally make sense to me.
S my question is, do I keep on trying to keep her at the table talking to our divorce busting coach?
Or do I respect her wishes and give her the divorce she wants
And if I let her go...
Does the cat ever come back?
Do people ever remarry the same partner after they have actually divorced them?
I am being the possibility of:
1) Integrity 2) Loving myself completely. 3) Things flowing naturally between us, without any fear or attachment to the outcome.
