W in long PA with another woman. I'm devastated.

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So I originally caught my wife's affair with OW through email. The night I told her that knew (1/26), she changed her password. I imagine she did it to cover her tracks, so I could not use them against her (too late).

I have never had access to her iphone, because she keeps it password locked, but she is on that thing more than anything.

After asking my wife last night if she has had contact with OW. She said that she has not talked to her or had contact. This is still heavy on my mind today. I know I should just blow it off and stop talking to her about OW.

I found myself curious and realized that our online cell phone bill is shared, and I am the main account holder. I was able to see every time a text was sent or received with phone number and also every call with phone number and minutes. How could I or her have missed this?

Before I outed her affair on 1/26 around 8:00 pm, there were thousands of texts and calls to OW. I knew about that for a long time, but I made nothing of it until PA was discovered.

So with my new discovery, I started looking for contact between the two of them since 1/26 at 8:00 pm. I'll be honest, there has not been one text message where there were thousands (a relief). However, I did find two outbound calls. One on 1/28 at 10 pm for 1 minute. The next on 1/29 at 4:27 pm for 5 minutes.

My wife had told me that she had not contacted OW at all since 1/26 at the request of her therapist. She told me that her brother sent OW an email stating those intentions. So these two calls mean that she did in fact lie to me.

Were these calls to say be patient with me, and I will be there for you soon? Calls to say goodbye? This kind of stuff is going to eat me up inside.

Should I be bothered now that these two calls were made to OW after W told me no contact has been made whatsoever? Should I be happy that there has not been more? Should I approach these to my wife in our next therapy session or simple ignore them but keep track for more in the future?

It seems so dumb for her to think that I would not be able to find this stuff out. Now I want to get access to her new email account and check it as well.

UGH! How frustrating!