25 Years Gone...?

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Tad,

...makes me want to call her or send a nasty email.

No doubt that would make you feel good, for a little bit, righteous fury and anger and all that.

But on a second look, how does that make you appear in her eyes? Does your venom justify her choice to her?
Will that nasty email, wake her up make her re-evalute her life?


Question for you Tad.

Can you make your wife do anything?

The real answer to that is something you are going to have to realize and come to accept.




We can influence, but we cannot really control anyone.



This is going to sound mean, and it is not intended to be.

Take a real look at yourself. Hard look.
Why would she come back?


I did it to myself, the other people posting here have too.

I was apathetic to my wife, I helped destory her self esteem, I was needy, and whiny, I took her for granted, I ignored her, I was a bad husband and a poor father.

I let a friend slip in (heh) and fill her her wants, the wants I should have been meeting. I totally understand why she had an affair. Doesn't make it right...but nothing I did was right either.

Bad choice compound.

For me, I became what I wanted to be. Turns out she liked that version.

Consistent changes in yourself over time made for yourself and no one else, might might influence her missing you.