Am I just being paranoid due to the mistrust of the affair? In the end, does it matter that the ending of the affair was not her decision?

If this was an affair with a man, and she came to me with remorse about saving our marriage, I would feel much differently right now. Due to the nature of the sexual orientation confusion, I worry that W will see OW as her emotional support when she needs it most and will only hide contact deeper while this goes on.

Me - 33 W - 33
S - 9 months
M - 3 years
T - 5.5 years
Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY
PA discovered - 1/18/11
PA began - 3/22/10
Separated