25 Years Gone...?

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Posted on 2.4.11

Hello. Please read my sitch on my thread. I'm having a really bad day. It's been 2 months today that my wife moved out. I'm trying to DB when I see her. Of course I made some mistakes in the beginning. I just wish I could have hope. I love her so much. I want her to come back, but I also know that I have to give her lots of time. The waiting is killing me. One month ago she said she wants a D, but still hasn't filed. Yesterday she said that she is starting IC. I'm not contacting her at all and that is the hardest part. Any contact we do have is initiated by her. Any advice/help/tips to help me get through this.
Thanks.

^^^Bump^^^

Tad,

Here are some positives, and while they are small they are still positives:

While she has said she wants a D, she hasn't moved forward with it.

Now a month later, instead of telling you she is seeing a lawyer, now she is saying that she is going to see an IC.

A person doesn't usually seek out an IC unless they believe there is something internal that needs a nudge, or a whack or a smack.

Waiting...

Use your time wisely. Waiting around sitting on your thumbs is not all that constructive.

Doing things with your time...and I will say this from the other side, you will never have more time to yourself than you do now. Right now? It's not what you want so you see it as a curse.
And if that is all you are willing to see it as, then sitting on your thumbs is what you will do.

If however, you use the time you have to...work out, GAL, read more, take a class, volunteer at a soup kitchen, genetically alter puppies...anything that you never thought you had the time to do before, you'll be better for it.

You improve yourself and kill time in the process.

This? This being an LBS is your choice. You could have just dropped the marrage, but instead you're sticking by your wife.
Your choice, take control of your choice, not the other way around.