You do realize that of course you could up and leave at any time too. What sort of guarnatee does Gabe have that you won't kick him out, or leave yourself?

Before we got married I would say most of us were naive and just knew that this was forever and that divorce could never happen to us as we were so in love. The reality is that you maybe don't really know what hand you have been dealt at least for a few years. Afterall you don't just automatically know how to live with another person. There are two different ways of being brought up being melded and sometimes they don't fit so well. We each have our own personal baggage as well. So it is amazing that we dare to take a chance at all.

It is so easy when your spouse cheats to say that you were the one that has been right all along and not to look at your own faults and weaknesses. Somewhere for some reason, we made mistakes too and maybe we didn't hear what our spouses had been saying. I never condone affairs or abandonment, but I do think we need to not place all the fault of the marriage on the other person.

I have faith in MYSELF that I have faced a lot of my own demons and can make a much better relationship the next time around. I have to boogie to lunch but I hope that helps.

kat

Me-53(and learning!)
S24, S21, D18, D17
Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory