Divorce or Hope?

[ninelives]

i apologize for the state of my post. Its not well written and so much is missing. I just cant seem to rehash all the details althought they probably are important.

She believes she loves this thing that she is with but again, I think its a matter of time before she wakes up. He has tried these lines with other women but my wife fell for them. She wanted out of our relationship but I wonder sometimes if she truly has nothing left for me. She gets upset around me easy and often wants to communicate. I think she misses many aspects of our life together but is addicted to this affair.

My therapist believes that she will come crawling back but only because she misses the security and is often overwhelmed in our small town because many people know about this. Our mutual friends have taken my side. Her brother in law ( sisters husband will not even talk to her) she is not allowed at her sisters house as a result. She looked up to her BIL as a second father but he hates her now.

Her boyfriend is not allowed at any of the family functions but I am still welcomed.

I know I must move forward, get stronger and focus on my kids and i have done that with some difficulty. But do I hold out some hope that her course with him will run out. they have so much going against them.

Last night she called and we stupidly rehashed what went wrong in our marriage with both of us taking blame.

I asked her at the end if she is happy now and she said emphatically that she is not and know she effed up her life and her kids life but doesnt know what to do about it.

I am lost at this point but am trying to move on but I cant seem to get her out of my mind.