Bolt is right, grr. We do have a habit of focusing on the negative and that is bad because it really does affect our attitude about things. Listen, my H told me that he was going to find an apt and leave. Without my knowledge, he actually paid for apt. That was 3 weeks ago. But he didn't leave. I was doing a great job "acting as if" for awhile and was pretty much always upbeat. Turns out he was trying to make things right. But all I could focus on were the negative behaviors and words. Well, needless to say, he is really leaving now and I have squandered yet another opportunity. I don't know if I'll get another chance. Hopefully, I will. But while your H is still talking and communicating with you, be upbeat and happy and your best self. And try to focus on the positive. It really makes a difference. Hang in there. My prayers are with you. Stay warm in my beloved home state. God, I miss it even with all the snow you guys are having!
