DB'ing but it's a daily struggle - need support 2

[ScaredinCanada]

Update:

Weirdness this morning. W called me at work early, but didn't leave a message. After getting back from coffee I give her a call back - thinking something might be up with the kids.

Turns out my Dad called last night wanting to talk to me, but I was at hockey. W wanted to know if I called him back (she's so curious about what he wants to talk to me about).

I spoke to my brother at hockey, he said that my Dad's mother has taken a turn for the worse and they believe it's only a matter of time before she goes.

My parents are leaving to go away on a cruise for a week this Saturday, and wanted to let everyone know NOT TO CALL THEM WHILE THEY ARE AWAY IF SHE PASSES.

I told my W, this is likely what my Dad wants to talk to me about. She then becomes the morality police, saying that it's disgusting that they are thinking of themselves, and that they don't want to have their trip ruined. I started telling her that I understood her point, but that if they are going to be away for a week and unable to cut their trip short why would they want to know and spend the rest of trip feeling bad or guilty that they weren't there?

Is this just more of my W taking a chance to hate on my parents?

What would you do in the same sitch.

Just fr background, my GM is 82 and she has Alzetimers and she broke her hip about 3 weeks ago in a fall. I think they been watching her "go" so to speak for the last couple years.