Hello everyone, just an update and request for advice.
D15 is not a talker. W has been pressuring her to talk about this separation and where D wants to live. I think W pushed too much and got an answer she didnt like. Apparently (and i dont know much) D told W she wanted to live with me. Of course W is upset. When i discussed this with D last week in a car drive (which she could not have avoided listening to me)at least i knew there was comprehension and consideration, and i recommended that she live with her mother at least for awhile until things settled. I let her know that it was W's and my wish that the kids choose for themself.
I am wondering now what tactic W will take now that things are not going by her playbook. I am a little surprised by D15's decision here given she would be separate from D13. I wanted them to stay together as sisters above all else.
W did something brazen yesterday and talked to the high school counsellor about approaching D15 to talk about all of this..in school. I don't agree with this. D15 will flip out and be embarrassed. W's words were "i know D15 will hate me for this but...." Anyway, i dont' know if i should intervene or not. Should D15 talk to a counsellor? Yes, i think its a good idea but if we approach this wrong there will only be resentment. D15 stayed home today since she barely slept last night.
I made a point of letting W know last evening that D15 in particulare was taking this all very hard. W has kind of ignored this on her road to happiness but i think reality has set in. She is very upset that D15 chooses to live with me.
