Hold your thoughts, Kemper. You shouldn't think about your wife and OM at all. You need to think about today and the future. Not ugly parts of the past. Sure, it's a lot of fun to have a new love. I, personally, was pretty addicted to the feeling. It was my one regret with reconciling, that I would never experience the titillation of a new boyfriend again. But there is a lot to be said for old love too. For holding the hand of the person you built your family and your life with. To be able to look back and remember the good times and the trials that made you who you are today.
Go have a nice V-day with your wife. Remember the good times that you shared with her. i'm sure if you put the good times with you on one side of a scale and the good times with him on the other, that your side would outweigh his. Take her out to dinner, and while you are there, mention a memory of a good time the two of you shared in your past. Reminding yourselves of the good times is a powerful way to bring you together.
