Your house sounds a lot like mine used to be. It's tough with 3 young kids. But if there is no other man around, you do sound like the kind of couple that Retrouvaille can help. It is no magic pill. It's the training that you should have had when you first got married. Somehow, we don't seek it out until we have really screwed up. Show her the pages from the website again. Especially the one about the 4 stages of marriage and what the misery stage looks like. Cause that's where you are! It can get better. But it takes work and commitment. But you are a family, not a couple. And the kids deserve to have parents who care enough about their welfare to spend a weekend together at Retrouvaille, listening to what the people there have to say. Remember, it is not group therapy. You will not be telling your troubles to anyone. You will just learn how to communicate well with each other.
It saved my marriage. Good luck. The hardest part is getting there.
