Twink this does not upset me at all. As far as coming back to the boards, I have lurked here and there and posted to some people. As far as my bf is concerned.....I AGREE with you that I am STILL needy! THAT is why I came here to ask the questions and get opinions. I have gotten opinions of some friends and a couple of people from these boards that are on my fb. I know that you all only know what I post here. THAT is the prb. with boards like this, People only know what they read. I know we love each other and want to be together. He has provided me with a car to drive, and financially it is better for us to be in the same house. He cooks for me and all the little things I leave out. No one is perfect. He is not yet to the point that he wants to get married. I dont think there is anything wrong with dating for a couple years.....why is that so bad? AND that is not what I came here to really ask. I am TRYING to work on my neediness and patience AND I came here to be reassured because I though I would get support here. My bf has admitted he is scared of committment because of his last marriage and he wants to make SURE its God's will. He has always been a slow mover. His mom confirmed this! His family told me right off the bat to load up on patience with him. He is trying to take things slow. A couple of people told me that NOTHING was wrong with that. I THOUGHT you all would confirm that too. BUT some of you have different opinions on that. Forgive me, and I am NOT pointing fingers at no one, BUT some here are so caught up in what happened in their lives and what has happened in others here that they cant see past it. They are not OPTIMIST'S at all. They automatically are on defense. There is life beyond a bad marriage. I found that out and it took me forever. OF COURSE I need to work on me and make ME happy. I have never been one to be alone, whether its a man or a family member. NOTHING is WRONG with that. I LOVE people! I am a PEOPLE PERSON. I would give the shirt off my back to anybody. My good heart gets taken advantage of because of this, but thats not MY prb. As for my son, YES I am heartbroken! Most people dont lose their mother, hubby, only son to their spouse and not to mention their home all in 6 to 8 months time. ALOT to deal with. My son is an adult and he is influenced by his Father. He has always looked up to him. I am convenienced that if my ex would show my son that he DONT hate me and we all can be adults and get along, my son would come around sooner. BUT my ex isnt gonna do that and I am not even gonna go there. I know my son Loves me and I love him. I NEED to have the FAITH I know I am suppose to have.
