Lost,
I can't believe the one night I have to take off from the site all this happens. I am sorry I couldn't be here for you.

I don't want to just repeat what has been said. Instead I want to ask you to promise us you will focus on the things said here. It is all true. My W walked out on me last September. This Sunday will be the 5 month anniversary of her departure. Am i going to mope around the house and call her and beg her to come back??? HELL NO!!! Instead, I have invited 10 people over to my house for a Super Bowl party. I am going to grill enough food to feed the US Army and I am going to enjoy the day.

What is the point of all that? To show you that when they leave, it truly is not the end of the world. Take it from us that have already stood there and watched them walking out with boxes or have come home to 1/2 furnished homes, it will be OK. We would not lie to you because we all love you about much as we can for being a bunch of people that don't even know the real names of the people we are pouring our hearts out to.

Go read my post today. It is an example that there is life after they leave. Yes, I know, just this Saturday I was drunk and declaring defeat. But, that was the liquor talking, not my soul.

There is life after this. Right now, forget your H, forget your sitch and forget your heavy heart. Go be with your father right now. Be there for your mom and your family. Helping others will help your soul. Right now, your family and father are priority one. Let your dumb*ssed H swing in the breeze for a spell!!

I will be thinking about you and your father tonight, sweetheart. I wish you the very best!

Remember, BITS NEVER WALK ALONE! NEVER!

Your friend,

FOBD

Me: 39
W: 36
T: 15 yrs
M: 9 yrs
S: 09/10

So you can get on with your search, baby
And I can get on with mine
And maybe someday we will find,
That it wasn't really wasted time...