2step, work there, live outside there was a message waiting when i got home from him and as i was listening he called again talked about stuff going on at our house in his home state (the one we never really get to anymore) and then about stuff he was going to do to our new home (which we were going to move into and now he is there while i am with my parents) i told him i have done some work while he was away and it came out great he told me that is good and he had hoped i would like his suggestion that brought my hopes way up....... then he said we needed to talk about what we were actually going to do with the house that brought me back down to earth i told him i would put him on with our son and he told me to at least text him when i got off work tomorrow night but then told me if we didn't touch base tomorrow we would on saturday confusing....? yes but maybe he is confused although he did say he is determined to see this (divorce) through a few days ago up and down up and down i guess it will be like this for awhile anyway i think i will sleep better tonight and i hope you all do too