2step, work there, live outside there was a message waiting when i got home from him and as i was listening he called again talked about stuff going on at our house in his home state (the one we never really get to anymore) and then about stuff he was going to do to our new home (which we were going to move into and now he is there while i am with my parents) i told him i have done some work while he was away and it came out great he told me that is good and he had hoped i would like his suggestion that brought my hopes way up....... then he said we needed to talk about what we were actually going to do with the house that brought me back down to earth i told him i would put him on with our son and he told me to at least text him when i got off work tomorrow night but then told me if we didn't touch base tomorrow we would on saturday confusing....? yes but maybe he is confused although he did say he is determined to see this (divorce) through a few days ago up and down up and down i guess it will be like this for awhile anyway i think i will sleep better tonight and i hope you all do too
zen, i do feel like he will feel rejected but then again, how much rejection should i have to take before i start taking care of me after all, i think i rock! i know i do i know we all do hope you are well and warm nyc is freezing!
Exactly my point grr. It's ok to make time for YOU now.
CT isn't that much warmer and it looks like we are in for yet another storm on Sat!
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M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
Bolt is right, grr. We do have a habit of focusing on the negative and that is bad because it really does affect our attitude about things. Listen, my H told me that he was going to find an apt and leave. Without my knowledge, he actually paid for apt. That was 3 weeks ago. But he didn't leave. I was doing a great job "acting as if" for awhile and was pretty much always upbeat. Turns out he was trying to make things right. But all I could focus on were the negative behaviors and words. Well, needless to say, he is really leaving now and I have squandered yet another opportunity. I don't know if I'll get another chance. Hopefully, I will. But while your H is still talking and communicating with you, be upbeat and happy and your best self. And try to focus on the positive. It really makes a difference. Hang in there. My prayers are with you. Stay warm in my beloved home state. God, I miss it even with all the snow you guys are having!
thanks to both of you and lis, i totally get what you are saying about the negative behavior i hope we both get another chance everyone have a great day xo
M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
HELP!! h is coming back to ny after a week of concerts and i got a text saying he is staying with us tonight i know why he is he misses s and wants to be a good guy but i am reading into it "oh he wants to reconcile" now smack me in the face, throw a bucket of water on me and tell me the truth thanks
