I am finding out with my H that he simply does not have a clue to many of the things that drive me batty. And, when I verbalize those things to H, he usually does try to do things differently so I don't get upset. (And remember, this is from a man who has had D papers sitting at the lawyers since July). Maybe during one of your "no eggshell" moments you could gently point out that the no phone call really does get your ire up. Truly let him know just how upset, and then mad you get.
PS. I really do enjoy my son's music, but then "the oldies" is all he ever listens to.
