nor do I think anything was said with judgement in mind.
I disagree completely. There are two problems here as I see it. First, those who consider themselves religious and follwo scripture to their churches word sit in judgment always on those who do not. Their are many different levels of being christian, not just the one taht you follow so judging her for living with a man is and making a comment that it is not christian is wrong. How about instead saying this " according to my beliefs it is not very christian to live with someone and not be married". Kind of keeps it from being judgmental and makes the poster not feel condemned, our ex's and MLC's can handle that part for us
Now to you Renee, while I disagree with the way they stated their opinions to you, I also disagree with you taking a religious stance on things and not expecting more observant christians to respond. We are all adults and understand the right wing beliefs on living with someone. We sometimes get the very tongue lashings that we ask for. Want my opinion on it, I could give a crap less as long as you can live with yourself and I am an old school Jew....so there
Now, on to you. The situation with your son is beyond your control. You can try and try to reach out and get the same results over and over if you want. The problem to me is you put the mother/son relationship on some sort of ivory tower. Guess what, a relationship is a relationship, is a relationship. If you have not figured it out yet, you need to be DBing your son.
The actions you are taking with him may very well be driving him further away instead of closer. Think about some of the things you have posted on here and forget for a moment he is your son, lets pretend he is a walkaway spouse, ready:
1. I sent him christmas presents and he sent them back.
2. I make sure to tell him I love him every time I can.
3. I constantly email him because that is the only thing he doesnt block.
Ok, I am done here, because you damn well better look at those three things and have a clear as day picture of what you are doing wrong in the relationship with your boy. I do not give a rats assss what your ex is telling him, your relationship with him is between you and him and if you do not stop pushing him and actually allow him time to work past shittt on his own, this will not get better. Space and time, maybe more than you want it to take, but it will happen.
Those were my jabs, I will leave here with a body blow. For a woman who speaks of faith so much, yours about your son coming around seems to be on shaky ground
