Having a hard time... II

[Redo]

But you know... that's the really frustrating part. I have felt for a long time that she needed to see this through before she would really start to deal with it but she kept letting it drag out. So frustrating.

When my W dropped the D bomb on 01/03 i was in the same boat as you. I so badly wanted to tell her about this site and for her to read it. But if she is a WAW, right now she is looking for any reason for her to justify her leaving you. At the end of the day your W should realize that you were the best catch she could find. my D is also going full swing. We might finalize it at beginning of March. So don't think you are alone in this. The D is over the day you decide to move on. Until then D is just a piece of paper...Hang in there man.

[2stepboogie]

Hey next I feel the same way about my W. We do have a lot of contact back and forth but I feel she will go through the whole D for herself to prove something. Nothing you can do about it. Let it happen and I think Denver gave you good advice. Short and sweet.

All you can do is continue to worry about you. These W know how we really feel they know that if they were to call and say "you wanna work this out?" we would probably jump right in. I don't know that is healthy attitude to have or a good image to give them. The balance of the relationship has been tilted.

Work on you and let her work on herself. Keep it light and short for now. Any attempt at this point to pressure her will backfire as Denver has pointed out

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This is what I have written... do you think it's too much? I haven't sent it yet lol.
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Sounds good. I finally got to the bank today and deposited that check in the joint account.

I think that the best way to do the taxes is for me to just use whoever you do. I think they should only need the W-2 and whatever else you will have with you so if you can just give them that and they can file us separate.

Trina showed me the pics of your work in the driveway. Very impressive I managed to make a road out of here for my dad to get to work today... but I just drove back and forth until the snow was packed down enough lol it will probably be an ice chute by the time he gets home. The roads are still pretty horrid but the Durango gets around well enough. Let me know if you need anything... I'm already Trina and my Grandma's life line. (and Danny had to borrow it today) Some drifts out here are like six feet deep but the roads are all pretty much plowed... only problem is that it gets down to one lane so if two people are going in opposite directions it can be easy for one to get stuck if they aren't both four wheel drive. At least we didn't lose power... that would make it unbearable lol

[Denver_2010]

I think that it is too much Next... way too much.

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i figured... lol

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i sent "sounds good... just let me know what you need"

[Denver_2010]

I think that's what you need to do right now. Short and sweet... otherwise dark.

[2stepboogie]

i sent "sounds good... just let me know what you need"

I agreed with Denver. I was about to say just send "sounds good" I guess you figured it out. Well done man hang tight. It's a marathon not a sprint!

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That Was my big weakness in December... I would full myself into thinking "she contacted me so now its OK to right a 10000 word reply" lol. That reply that I wrote was super Consise for me but probably a DB fail lol. That's why I brought it here first!

Thanks guys

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It's hard to see any reason to have hope right now. She is so focused on the process and has convinced herself that she can just work her way through the stages of grief and be past it all. I'm kind of freaked out today lol.