Chapter 3 the end? Or new beginning?

[MichelleLT]

Interesting. Almost seems like she was doing a temperature check on you. To see if you were angry or wouldn't reply to her after the things she said this am. Almost like she's testing the person you are trying to be.

To reply to your earlier comment about her not trusting herself with you. Trust doesn't magically appear, it must be earned. And words are hollow. Actions are what matter. You have to go back to being the person she fell in love with, but a more mature, wiser version.

The fact that she contacted you and didn't feel the need to withdraw is very interesting. Definitely a bit atypical, but then in some ways not. The WAS is always most comfortable when the LBS is still on the string. When they know you would take them back, do anything for them. So periodically they like to check in and see how detached (or not) you are lol.

The fact that you could joke about her job and such is great though. A sense of humor goes a long way through all of this. Both for your own sanity and for your dealings with the WAS.

Personally, I would have left that last text/IM off. Especially since she might see your text about applying back at her old job as pressure to return to her old life, you and the job, etc. (I'm assuming the job is back where you are, please correct me if I'm wrong). But the rest of the convo was good.

It's one thing to leave the door open, it's another to try and lure them through or worse, push them that direction. You can always answer if she asks that you want to try and make it work and believe it can, but (and this is an important "but") that the most important thing is her happiness and that you will be fine no matter what she decides. Since her chief complaint seems to be that you were "controlling" and didn't listen to her opinion you have to be very consistent in doing a 180 on that type of behavior.

Good for you on keeping your expectations low. It's okay to hope for the best, but always be prepared for the worst.