Well Vet called and said my cat is doing well. They have only one more test to run but they think that he is fine. They do not know what happened this morning but they are going to let me take him home. So I'm leaving work early to go get him.
Hey Lost hang in there. I was in your situation for about two weeks in october before W left. At that point I felt the frustration you are feeling right now. Hell I even told her what truck company to use so it was cheaper to move out. I was done with the fighting and arguing.
Then I went through: Shock/Denial
I bought a plane ticket to Hawaii and spend 10 days on the beach hanging out with my half brother. While there I read DR Man are from Mars and Mars and Venus Break up
Then came: Pain/Guilt
This is when the real hurt started. This is when I felt desperate and reality sunk in.
Then came: Anger/Bargaining
Making deals with W mad at her for leaving and betraying my trust. "How could she"
Then came: Depression/Loneliness
I came to the website at this point. You along with others lifted me up. This is when I needed you guys the most. I was in a bad way. I cried almost daily.
I think I am working out of this stage right now and really only now can I really begin the DB. I couldn't do it before my mind was not right.
I don't say this to discourage, but to uplift. You will feel new emotions when he leaves but that is ok. We will be here and we will help you through them. When you come out the other side you will begin to really find yourself and then with a clear head you can begin the actual DB process.
In the meantime check in often and let us help you the way you have helped us.
Thanks for the kind words. They mean so much to me. I am going to stay here. You guys help me so much! And I am 100% emotionally invested in all of you folks. I understand the rules of this website and I know that they are trying very hard to protect us. But I was thinking about it the other night and it makes me sad that I will never get to meet you guys because I am so invested. Some days it frustrates me too because I want so badly to call Dixie right now because she is just having a hard time. And I've felt that way about a lot of you folks.
I'm not going anywhere anytime soon. Right now, you guys are about the best friends I have...
I know what you mean. You guys know more about me and my W then anyone I know. I understand the protection aspect of it but I would love to call and speak with you guys on a one on one.
I'm so happy that your baby cat is doing better today. I got so emotional when I read that. When my H 1st left in 2006. Our Lab was very old and when she passed in 2007. It almost killed me. I got so sick from not eating/sleeping/grieving over her that I had a seziure!!! So, please please...take care of yourself!!!
Like 2step, I took off for about a week and went to see some old friends in another state. So, I could feel loved and taken care of. I love the outdoors. So, I fished and took long walks through the country....my friends just sat and listened w/no judgement! God love them!
I understand the finance part too...Ive been there...I had to make some tough choices too. But, I went to one of my best girlfriendsher H who is sharp w/finances and she guided me. Normally, Im sharp...but, I couldnt think straight it was all to much..So, if you have someone like that, go bounce things off them or come here! We will help ya....
I know your getting beat up on right now....but, you open that bible and lay down your worries friend. Cause, you can't do it alone...Don't forget you have all of us too!!!
I do wish we could all get together someday...I would cook us up a huge Southern Meal, We'd get some "Texas Outlaw" Live music going and sit around the lake and tell our war stories....
Love & Blessing to you Lis!!!
Dixie
Me: 40 H: 39 M: 17 yrs - Together 18 1/2yrs No kids Seperated: May 18, 2006 EA/Poss PA with OW for 6 months prior to leaving. 2nd Bomb dropped: Dec. 23, 2010
LIS - Just caught up with everything. I'm SO sorry for what has happend to you. I feel your pain. My H will have moved out 1 year already this Sunday. I expect that I will be having a tough time.
Den, 2, Grr, DG all have great points that I can't even add to because they'd be redundant.
DG - I wish we could all get together too - I'm always up for some that good 'ole Southern Fried Chicken! We have all become such wonderful friends. It's really nice when you think the whole world has kicked you in the a$$!
BITS
M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
LIS - one other thing....keepin gyou in my thoughts and prayers.
Peace and Hugs to you
BITS
M: 48, H: 42 Kids: 0 T: 20 yrs M: 16 yrs. (H's 1st, my 2nd) WAS/MLC: 12/7/09-I'm not the wife HE deserved Came home per L: 12/26/09, Left again: 2/6/10 Served: 10/21/10, D FINAL: 6/15/11
So when I went to go pick up my cat, I was getting a bunch of calls from my brother and stepmother. I called my brother back. My dad was supposed to have some minor surgery for a kidney stone today. They didn't do the operation because before they brought him in they noticed an irregular heartbeat. An EKG later, they admitted my dad into the cardiac unit at the hospital. They have no idea what is wrong, but they know something is...
I got my prayers on speed dial to our LORD!!! Hold on sweetie...breathe! Close your eyes for a second and get your center.....
I'm praying for your Daddy! GOD has this all under control...you just put all your focus on being there for him...all this other mess will have to wait!!
This is me giving you a big HUG!!!!
Me: 40 H: 39 M: 17 yrs - Together 18 1/2yrs No kids Seperated: May 18, 2006 EA/Poss PA with OW for 6 months prior to leaving. 2nd Bomb dropped: Dec. 23, 2010
Lost, I can't believe the one night I have to take off from the site all this happens. I am sorry I couldn't be here for you.
I don't want to just repeat what has been said. Instead I want to ask you to promise us you will focus on the things said here. It is all true. My W walked out on me last September. This Sunday will be the 5 month anniversary of her departure. Am i going to mope around the house and call her and beg her to come back??? HELL NO!!! Instead, I have invited 10 people over to my house for a Super Bowl party. I am going to grill enough food to feed the US Army and I am going to enjoy the day.
What is the point of all that? To show you that when they leave, it truly is not the end of the world. Take it from us that have already stood there and watched them walking out with boxes or have come home to 1/2 furnished homes, it will be OK. We would not lie to you because we all love you about much as we can for being a bunch of people that don't even know the real names of the people we are pouring our hearts out to.
Go read my post today. It is an example that there is life after they leave. Yes, I know, just this Saturday I was drunk and declaring defeat. But, that was the liquor talking, not my soul.
There is life after this. Right now, forget your H, forget your sitch and forget your heavy heart. Go be with your father right now. Be there for your mom and your family. Helping others will help your soul. Right now, your family and father are priority one. Let your dumb*ssed H swing in the breeze for a spell!!
I will be thinking about you and your father tonight, sweetheart. I wish you the very best!
Remember, BITS NEVER WALK ALONE! NEVER!
Your friend,
FOBD
Me: 39 W: 36 T: 15 yrs M: 9 yrs S: 09/10
So you can get on with your search, baby And I can get on with mine And maybe someday we will find, That it wasn't really wasted time...
