W in long PA with another woman. I'm devastated.

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lostinscared - Thank you so much. Your story and advice truly does give me hope.

You never know how you are going to react to this kind of situation until it happens. Instead of becoming angry at my wife, I took the high road and showed her compassion and care, as I know she is very scared and confused right now. Some of supported me on acting on my character. Some of my family believes I am in denial or naive. They believe that a 10 month affair with a woman (that may not have ended unless I found out) is not a flash in the pan. It is this struggle that fights with me everyday. I am just going to have to stick with my gut feeling and keep fighting.

If I fail, I expect that I will get hurt again. But if I do fail and my wife decides that she prefers women, I know that I gave it my best. My wife and I will also be on good terms which is extremely important for us to co-parent our son.

If I fight and it works out, I think our marriage can be rebuilt even stronger. I am fully committed to that, and it sounds as of now that my wife is even willing to go through couples therapy with me while she figures her own issues with her individual therapist.

I expect this journey to be a long one. At least I believe it will be a long one if my wife's heart is in it, too. If she breaks the advice of not ceasing the affair, it could end much quicker. I fear that. I also have lost trust in my wife for obvious reasons. I have a difficult time ensuring myself that all contact has been broken with OW as suggested by her therapist. How would I ever know? I don't know.

Thanks for the support. The quotes you provided are perfect and brightened my otherwise gloomy day. I truly appreciate that.