I am so sorry you are hurting so much! It is just awful what these people do to the people who love them the most. I have been where you are and sent SEVERAL emails just like that one! It cleanses your soul, but does nothing to them. They are just not in a place that they can truly "see" what they are doing and they have no forthought of what the consequences are and will be for all the horrible choices they have made.
I can see my XH is coming out of all this, but he has really hit rock bottom. Please hang in there, it will happen to yours too. That doesn't mean you will get back together or that you will even want him when that happens, but it will give you a sigh of relief and make things easier. It has been over 4 years since my XH started MLC and he is just now peaking out of the tunnel, and I am not holding my breath, but it is amazing how his tone of voice, his demeaner and so many things are back to the way he use to be. No R talk between us, I have asked him to move up here for the kids sake and he has been calling me and been really flirty, but I am not making first contact at all. I actually met someone I really like and even if it is just a distraction, it is a nice one!
I am praying for you! And, so wish there was a way to contact you outside of here...we have such similar stories!!
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Me-40 XH-44 T-21 M-18 Div-19 mo. D-18,S-15,D-11 Bomb-7/07 EA,PA Mvd out-9/07-to give me space mvd back-12/07 mvd out-7/08 back with OW since 2/08 OW broke it off-1/10 in and out of tunnel and our life since!!
