Yes, H has always been one to avoid any "feeling" conversations. In fact, that was one othe things he said OW did for him, was discuss feelings, whereas I was floored. For years, I couldn't get anything remotely touchy feely out of him. My sister, who lived with us for over 5 years in college, was just as surprised. Earlier, he did send even stronger signals to not go there - how tough his day was, how tempramental the staff at work was, etc.
