You have certainly been through an awful lot. It breaks my heart for you that your son won’t speak to you. I can only imagine the pain that must cause you.
I’m a Christian too. I don’t for, one second, want to judge you at all. I admire the fact that the two of you can live in separate rooms and not be physically intimate. I’m not sure that I could! (“ I think what everyone is most concerned about is that it has been 17 months and he’s not ready to move forward. The fact that he says that you’d wait for him as long as it takes causes some concern.
You’ve been really hurt. No one wants to see you go through any more hurt.
He dated his ex for two years before marrying her. That’s not rushing into a marriage. I rushed into marriage. (Less than 3 months after we met)
I think he may have some issues with commitment or there is something else entirely going. Maybe from his childhood.
Since you’re both Christians, do you go to the same church together? Would he be willing to meet with a pastor or priest with you? Take a pre-marriage class together? There are tons of Christian materials that you could utilize.
