Divorced, now what?

[confoundedhubby]

Divorce was final Jan 19, she was emotionally and physically unfaithful, I was emotionally, and we both agree we made mistakes, although she falls short of admitting to any wrongs on her part, prefering to stay focused on mine. She says she has no remorse or guilt for her actions, yet won't talk about it...
Anyway, she is still in house with our three kids, she has nowhere to go, just started a new job, so has no money to even start, and now all the debt she racked up while I was deployed is coming back to haunt her. I know that so many are advising me to give her the boot, but my three kids have to have place to live, too, and I feel that doing so may create more hard feelings (not that she isnt blaming me for everything that went wrong, of course)but also do not want to be an enabler either.
Comments, ideas, suggestions? Michele's book is kinda vague in this area, but I am trying to keep my good changes going, but on same token...??