Thanks for the words of support. I have read both Kitti's and KAW's threads from time to time, and learn a little with each visit. I need to find ways to detach from my fears, not from H. I tend to do both or none. We never had a "talk" last night, and by then and a little lunchtime shopping therapy, I'd gotten a grip again. I still am not sleeping well, but we'll let that ride a bit. H was pleasant, and I didn't push for his attention. (It helped that I could watch my 2 year old neice play with the puppy). Later, I was cleaning, and like old times, H told me to stop, poured me a glass a wine, and invited me to watch TV with him. Actually, he said "sit someplace, and I'll follow you", so I could have made it a time to talk, and didn't.
