Need Insight V

[ScaredinCanada]

I've never understood the line "If you love them, then let them go."

My W has actually said this too me a few times, and can never think of an answer that doesn't compound the issues.

IF I love her, why the heck would "I want" to let her go?!?!

I understand part of it is, that I really don't have a choice in what SHE does and I certainly don't want to just guilt her into staying. Also, the thought that if you let "it" go then possibly the freedom will ultimately result in "it" finding it's way back to you.

I honestly hope I NEVER hear that saying again...the quote is atributed to some Doug Horton but I can't seem to find anything about him.

Anyways, just something that's bothered me.