Need Insight V

[Truegritter]

There is progress which you cannot see, that only I see."

My take on this Pickle? Stop watching. Stop looking.

Let go and let God.

But that could mean anything between miraculous scales dropping from her eyes tomorrow to many, many years of being divorced.

Or flying blue donkeys that fart rainbows...

You are right your W is not the person you married right now.

She is lost and she is searching for happiness in empty and hollow places.

Don't follow her there.

Let her walk there on her own. As you have walked through this process so far on your own.

And what have you gained so far?

Would you rather she come back to the family out of guilt for the children or destroying the family

or

Because she has completed a maturing process that we all have to make ...

It is tougher for some than others.

You are in your own process of this. Your own journey.

The progress you may not see may be things you are not looking at in yourself.

Can your love for your W encompass letting her go right now?

Without anger or resentment?

When you cease to look at yourself as a victim of bad behavior or choices...

The true power-courage, integrity, dignity within you can come forth.

You have been here long enough and you have words and the knowledge to do this.

So

As it was put to me once when I was stuck:

You know how to do this.

So stop f@cking around and do it.