Navy...

Not sure this is the answer you are looking for...

The only thing I can tell you is.... when you are with your children...

Take your wife out of the equation. Plan some activities that you want to do with them.

Don't exclude her, but don't go out of your way either. Extend an invitation to join, but don't be ( or show) disappointment if she refuses.

Act as if it is absolutely normal for her not to join you.

Then just go, and enjoy your time with them....

That is the most important part...actually enjoying them.

If she decides to join you...then be sure to not get dragged into a relationship talk while your children are dismantling the jungle gym.....: )

Keep your convos light , and focused on the kids...