Less Scared and Less Alone

[Denver_2010]

LIS - I've very sorry to hear this. You will be okay though. However things ultimately turn out, you really will.

My W left in November. I was telling my IC on Monday that however my situation ultimately turns out, my W leaving was the best thing. NOTHING for us was going to heal without that happening. I know that the DB line is to avoid physical S as long as possible, but I truly believe that, sometimes, it can actually make DBing easier, and make healing the M easier. I definitely believe that it has for me.

Physical separation does not have to be the end of the road unless you choose for it to be. What you do next, let the M go or continue to DB, either way, it okay. You have to do what is best for LIS.

I would suggest that you give it some time though. Let yourself hurt for a bit. It is normal and part of the grieving process. This doesn't mean that you are grieving the end of the M, you are just grieving the separation itself. But you will need to grieve. Don't make any decisions until you have allowed yourself to stabilize emotionally. In fact, don't make any big decisions, or even say much to H, until this has happened.

Keep your head up. I can tell that you are a wonderful person. You will be happy again.

BITS
Denver