Next - How long have you been dark with W? I tend to agree that you should hold off on contacting her if it hasn't been that long. It takes some time before you will see results.

Do you know when your D will be final? What kind of timeline are we dealing with here?

BITS
Denver

M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce