Whoo-whee...lots of good stuff there, Mike. I don't think I'lm the only one benefitting from your words today!
True, my wife hasn't left, but she told me she will leave in June, which is when her current semester is over, and summer holiday starts. Being a med student, that is logically the only time to do it really. I have this notion that since she has the upper hand in controlling how fast/slow this separation/divorce goes, staying here and moving out in June is a big benefit for her.
If you look at it from that point of view, she's playing her cards well. If you look at it from an optimistic point of view, at least I have a few more months of close contact with her, not much, but definitely more than if she's gone.
As for the laundry, i forgot to clarify that she has been doing her laundry this entire time, except for this past weekend. Which is why I thought it might be a nice surprise if she came home to some clean scrubs. Alas, she's already doing them as I type this.
Mike, I think the problem with her not respecting me comes from the fact that she has no trust in me whatsoever - a sad byproduct of my porn addiction. So even if I've gotten my tasks/acts together, or heck, even tasks/acts that I did right the entire marriage, she obviously questions them now.
Simple example that happened not more than twenty minutes ago:
Usually I cook dinner for all of us each evening. Today I didn't because I had two p.m. interviews (awesome!), so I just picked up my son from daycare (this I do like 95% of the time) and bought dinner home. My wife got home early from the hospital today, so she was home before we got back. She must've noticed there wasn't any food, so she texted me to see if there were dinner plans.
W: Where were you all? M: I picked "E" up from daycare at 5. Then we went to buy dinner. I had two interviews today so I didn't cook. Your food is on the table. W: Well, i'm just not sure if you cook for me everyday. (This is not the first conversation we've had about this, BTW) M: I also cook for all of us to eat, or buy food for you too. W: I don't want to take advantage of you. (Same thing she says each time) M: i always cook for you. I've cooked food all week, but you haven't been eating them because of your schedule. W: Yeah, I bet you tell people that...that you cook for me and I chose not to eat. (She says this each time too) M: it's just meals that I cook for everyone. If you don't eat, we have leftovers for next day.
Five minutes later, as I was walking up the stairs (she hangs downstairs with our son to spend time with him), she asks, "How is your job thing going?" I said, "Very positive actually. For many of them, I'm in second and third interviews already. Never seen such intensive interviews before, but they'll all interested in me. it's just a waiting game right now." Then I heard her go, under her own breath, "huuumpph!"
