I had posted here before when my h left in November saying he loved me but wasnt in love with me -- felt trapped and needed to see if marriage was for him. Everyone asked if it was an affair and I said no I believed him.
I read the book - did the 180 - went dark -- he started coming around. He came to the house for Christmas eve - spent it with my family and didnt leave. We started spending time together. Going out having fun. Then he would ask to go watch the football games at his friends house. I said yes go because I didnt want to be controlling. well he was back a month until the fateful bears play off game. I got calls all night from a strange number. That morning he called me said he loved me and was not going into work he drank too much told me he loved me. I told him about the strange calls. Then as I was talking to him the number came up. I checked our voice - mail.
It was the husband of the women my H is/was having the affair with. He told me to tell my H to stop f'ing his wife (exact words) then there were messages to check my email. He sent me all of their sexual texts. I confronted my H - he denied it. Asked if he could come home I said no.
we have communicated these last two weeks -- he says its over but they still chat she wants to be friends. She is crazy and so is her H. I told him he cant communicate with me as long as he is communicating with her. He says he loves me and will always love me - misses my family and our two babies but doesnt want to come back if he is going to hurt me again.. We all know there isnt a simple solution for this.
went to an attorney and had divorce papers drawn up. Now I am having second thoughts on signing them. My family is angry. I just dont know what to do I dont want to give up but I already gave him his seperation - wouldnt divorce papers be a realty - please help
