No, I don't mean that our M would be built solely on W's terms. I realize that I could never function like that. I just mean that I can't control whether or not she becomes willing again to take a risk that our M will be better.

The wounds that she carries from our R are deep. They must heal before she will ever consider reconciling. Once they do, will she want to put herself back into a situation where those wounds were inflicted? I know that this possibility has to scare her. She may choose not to take that risk. And I cannot control that.


M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce