What I can't figure out completely is what I am going to do if I fail in getting it.
What is your definition of success?
How can you fail in getting it?
1) Complete success would be for me to become a better man and a better H as a result of all of this, reconciling with my W, AND having a stronger/healthier M.
I guess my definition is not so black and white though...
2) I could become a better man and potential H and NOT reconcile with my W. I would view this as partial success and partial failure. Plus, I feel that I would carry a great deal of regret over my role in failure of M going forward.
3) Complete failure would be me not learning from my situation and learning to be a better man/H... And NOT reconciling with my W.
Right now, options 2 and 3 are going to be pretty hard for me to deal with.
I only have control over what I learn from this situation. Reconciliation is very much in the my W's control right now.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce