I've heard that before...just be patient. I'm quite fine with doing that and I definitely don't want to be the pursuer this time around. Sounds like you found a great guy and I do believe they are out there.
It sure is nice to hear all the expertise/experiences from everyone on this board!
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
Lol - Suzy - lights off! Brilliant! Why on earth didn't I think of that before????
And he was fine with it, so it wasn't an issue. Like I said, I kept wondering what his motive was, but after a while I stopped worrying about it. And it was a nice little boost for the ego!
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
Okay, I have discovered the number one reason not to date a guy in his twenties. They will try to text and call you at 2 A.M.!!!!! Wtf is up with that? I have a JOB. I have to get UP in the morning. I am sure as hell not answering my phone at 2 A.M. for some drunk-dialing young guy. Sheesh!
BA - you said: "in my opinion it just seems many of the women I have reached out to, who I consider are in the same "league" as me looks wise, have unrealistic expectations out there. It's almost like they feel like this is their opportunity to score their Mr. tall dark and handsome and us average Joes or even above average Joes need not apply. "
I think part of the problem in our age group may be, we're all in denial about our aging! I can't tell you how many profiles I see, where the guy states that he looks ten years younger than his age, and I'm looking at the photos and thinking - "ummm, no you look EXACTLY 54!" I've considered the possibility that all of us boomers still see our younger selves in the mirror, lol.
I also see myself as much younger than I look. At 48 I look 55 but have a mental picture of myself as 35. Photos and mirrors give me a wake up call though.
I can relate to the 2am texting also. My GF gets constant texts at all time of the night from friends and family. It got to the point where I asked her to talk to them and ask them not to text after 11pm or to even turn her damn phone off.
But I get the feeling she is one of those kinds of people who craves drama in her life and her phone never leaves her side.
Me:48 W:55 M:22 T:23 Bomb:19Nov09 S:15Jan10 D:11Feb10 EA:Confirmed on 20Apr10 Fast track to her divorcing me
Oh, dump her then. Who needs drama? And people like that will create drama if none exists.
I have a zero tolerance policy for drama these days!
As for those mirrors - I look really, really good in my office bathroom mirror! When I buy a house I'm gonna figure out how to recreate those colors and that lighting throughout my whole house, lol.
I'm checking out Oprah tomorrow. She has all the gorgeous supermodels from the 70's and 80's on and they're going to talk about aging. Have you seen Christie Brinkley at 57?! I want whatever she's having!!!
Also, to be honest...I am not opposed in any way to some of the modern medical "enhancers" that can erase some of the deeper lines, etc. Can't be sure I would ever do a facelift, but right now I like the upkeep I'm doing. I don't look 49 and I'm happy to admit that I do have some 'help' and I just do what I can.
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
Okay, off the internet and out into the real dating world - I went to a show tonight with my best friend. The musician performing was a friend of hers (and now mine) that we opened for last fall.
So I was at the bar getting a drink and saw a cute guy, brief eye connection. I'm rusty at this! I'm sure I should have held his eye contact longer but my natural shyness kicks in.
So later in the evening, I see he is back by the bar and I go back there hoping I will be able to make conversation. But before I can, some other guy comes up to me and strikes up a conversation. Nice guy (although not really my type) but the whole time we are talking, I'm thinking the cute guy nearby is probably getting discouraged. Darn!
Soooo....later still, I see the cute guy taking pics on his cell phone during one of the big numbers. Thinking quickly, I scribble my email address on a scrap of paper, then walk past him and tap him on the shoulder, handing him the scrap and asking if he'll send me the pics if he gets any good ones.
Of course, between it being dark and my handwriting being awful under the best of circumstances, there is a distinct chance he won't be able to read it! (I should print up some cards like someo0ne else here, lol!)
He was, however, age-appropriate and my type of good looking. Who knows whether we would have anything else in common, but I'm hoping he writes
