Your post made me think of myself...when H was around and trying..that's EXACTLY what I did!!!
It made me cry just now to realize I really did ruin my chances...
Me: 40 H: 39 M: 17 yrs - Together 18 1/2yrs No kids Seperated: May 18, 2006 EA/Poss PA with OW for 6 months prior to leaving. 2nd Bomb dropped: Dec. 23, 2010